What Every Woman Should Realise Before It’s Too Late

Life has a way of teaching us all kinds of lessons. Some are hard, others easier. Nonetheless, the lessons are like the writing in our own personal novel story. They’re necessary. Vital. Sometimes women go through years and years of experiences, heartache, loss and more without knowing these lessons. These realisations can transform your life. Buckle up, ladies, because we’re sharing these lessons that every woman needs to learn before it’s too late. Say hello to a new you because these realisations are going to have you stepping into your newfound woman power.

Your worth is defined by YOU and never by others.

Don’t spend your whole life living by other people’s standards and meeting their expectations. You get to decide for yourself. Your worth is defined by you and only you. 

Boundaries are a must.

Picture boundaries like a safety net surrounding your mental health (and sometimes even physical health). They are necessary. They help. And anyone who tries to make you feel negative about your boundaries isn’t looking out for what’s best for you. They’re looking out for themselves. Boundaries are like an internal hug for yourself. They keep you feeling safe.

Self-care is essential and non-negotiable.

Somewhere along the way, the world convinced women that self-care is a luxury and we’re here to tell you it’s not. Women, you need to make it non-negotiable. Your care matters. Women need to see that earlier on in life. Make self-care a ritual and implement it into your schedule. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it’s self-care. Your entire being needs it. 

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Learn how to be happy for others without losing your own joy for yourself. Comparing things in life can lead you down a rabbit hole quickly, but it’s so hard not to fall. There’s constant content being pushed at us; how do you not compare? It will take practice, but it’s worth the work. We promise. 

You can’t make everyone happy, so don’t try.

Worry about you and the people you care about and that’s it. Not everyone deserves you trying to make them happy or even just being a positive part of their life and that’s okay. Instead, focus on your own life, who is in it and what you bring to your relationships.

You are allowed to change.

Consider this your permission slip to evolve and change. You do not need to be the same as you were five years ago. You can change everything about you, from your appearance to your beliefs. Don’t waste your time on people who make you feel bad about changing. If you’re not changing, then you’re staying still, and that’s when life gets stagnant. Keep moving, growing, changing and thriving.

Your body is your home; treat it with love.

You have to live in your body until the day you die. It needs to be strong enough to make the trip! Treat your body like it’s your home. Nourish it; build habits that support it being strong and flexible. Your body is important but not for the reasons society has told you. Because it’s your vessel and carries you through everything in life. It deserves it. You deserve it.

Life doesn’t owe you fairness.

It’s unfortunate but it’s also true. Life doesn’t owe you a fair deal, a fair chance, a fair shot, or anything. It doesn’t owe you.

Forgiveness is for you, not them.

Forgiveness frees you. Do it for yourself. Forgiveness isn’t for the other person. It lets you move on and process the feelings. Forgiveness isn’t about saying what they did was okay but about saying you love yourself more than they hurt you and you’re ready to move forward in some way. It might take time to find a way that feels good to you and that’s okay. Forgiving, though – that’s all for you.

Learn how to sit with uncertainty.

Learning to sit with uncertainty will mean you never have to jump the gun to make a decision. You can lean in and wait until you’re sure, because the uncertainty doesn’t scare you.

Your presence is enough.

You just being you is enough. You don’t always have to have something to offer. Just being you is great.

Vulnerability means strength.

Don’t let anyone tell you differently – vulnerability means strength. Being a vulnerable person means you’re an incredibly strong person. 

Fear is a compass, not a barrier.

If you listen, you’ll hear that fear is trying to tell you something. It guides you. It can help you understand life better if you don’t see it as a barrier. It’s offering you a sense of direction. You just have to slow down to listen.

Nature heals.

Regardless of what’s going on in life, spend time in nature often. Nature heals. Truly.

You are allowed to love girlhood.

You are allowed to love pink and butterflies and dancing in your pyjamas. You don’t have to “grow up” and let it all go. You are allowed to bring the sparkle and curiosity of girlhood into your womanhood. In fact, we recommend it. Romanticise your life and bask in the things that bring you joy. It doesn’t matter what they are. 

Comfort zones are beautiful prisons.

Comfort zones are meant to be left behind. Break out of the beautiful prisons that are comfort zones and get comfortable being uncomfortable. Your future self will thank you.

Curiosity keeps you alive.

Don’t stop wondering, questioning, thinking, etc. Curiosity is so important. Always stay curious.

Silence can be loud.

Often in life the loudest things are actually dead quiet. Listen to the silence. Lean in. It might be saying more than you originally heard. 

To sum it up

Every woman should realise these lessons before their life passes them on by. They’re transformative and will make a great difference in the lives that they’re applied to. From accepting that life doesn’t owe you fairness to making time in nature a priority, these lessons will help you grow, heal and evolve.